Top Five Things Every Parent Should Do After Their Child is Diagnosed with ADHD

When your child receives a diagnosis of ADHD, it can feel heart-wrenching. You worry that your child won’t be able to meet his goals, that you’ve failed him by not getting him tested sooner, and you feel TERRIBLE about how many times you lost your temper with him.

But here’s the thing:

You child CAN still meet his goals.

Denial is a normal part of parenting (e.g., Who wants to admit that their child has a “condition” that they will have to learn to manage; it’s way easier to think they’re just blowing you off when they don’t follow-through with your requests). Don’t beat yourself up about it. Instead, put your energy into building a support network for you and your child.

Top 5  Things  Every Parent  Should Do  After Their  Child  Is Diagnosed  With ADHD

Here are the Top Five Things You Should Do When Your Child is Diagnosed with ADHD

#1 Make sure you give your child’s teacher a copy of the evaluation.

Some families don’t want their child to be “labeled” at school, but one of the primary reasons psychologists, like me, put our blood, sweat, and tears into writing these reports, is because teachers need to know how to help your child. Plus, schools often can’t provide needed services for your child without a medical diagnosis.

#2 Ask the psychologist who made the diagnosis to help you prioritize the recommendations.

Pick the top three and put your energy there for now. Many parents feel they need to tackle every recommendation NOW, but that isn’t the truth. You’ll make yourself crazy that way. When my son was diagnosed, our top three must-do’s involved finding a good tutor (he was behind in reading and writing), working with my son’s kindergarten teacher about how to be more ADHD-supportive, and figuring out where my son should attend school in the fall. Other things had to wait.

#3 Find a good child or adolescent ADHD specialist in your area and make an appointment.

Don’t try to walk this alone. I should have sought professional support sooner. Since I’m a child psychologist, I fooled myself into believing that since I had the “knowledge”, I could mange the stress. Not so. The specialist will help you problem-solve about all kinds of things, like homework, chores, electronic use, bedtime, you name it. You’ll feel empowered with your new knowledge and skills.

#4 Talk about your experience with people you trust.

I realize there are still stigmas around diagnoses, like ADHD, but the truth is, you don’t want to spend your time with people who judge you anyway. Let your besties support you. Since ADHD is on the rise (7 to 11 % of school age children have it), your friends might even surprise you with their own ADHD experiences.

#5 Read Read Read.

Go to my resources page to find my favorite parenting books about ADHD. Become a member of national organizations, like Children and Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder (CHADD). Go to local seminars, parenting groups, and learn what you can about ADHD. But, don’t believe everything your read on the internet. And don’t spend a lot of money on “treatment” until you check it out with your child’s pediatrician, psychologist, or other professional who can advise you. 

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